My husband has resentment towards me

And its hard for him to be nice to me because he says I keep triggering him. Like i cant help who I am. I feel so unaccepted. I cheated in the past but he “forgave me” and we continued the relationship. So I feel like he is at a time in his life where change needs to happen and he stuck. I have put in the work! I white flag to him every other day. Im tired now. Our couples therapist even vouches that. Im over him keep being stuck. And i feel like a doormat. He makes me not want to even try. He acts like he doesn’t trigger me! Lack of affection, attention that i actually want and not what he thinks i want . No consideration for my feelings. He a mess. Its making me feel bad, and the crazy thing about it, i been feeling bad it just seems like since we’re married now our personality flaws are being highlighted more. It draining. I do not no what to do. Seems like to move out but that cant happen over night and i have a 14 yr old.