I need some advice please…

So

I speak to this guy regularly, i’ve told him multiple times how I feel about him the most recent time being only a few days ago. I cut him off a few months back because I really liked him and he didn’t feel the same way. It was driving me mad and I cried to him about how much I liked him. Fast forward to about two months ago when I added him back on social media and we got back in contact. We had briefly flirted beforehand but this time it got much more intense. Since then he has fucked with my head so badly and I don’t know if he’s meaning to or if he’s just saying things sometimes to make me feel better. Here is a few examples.

He rang me one evening to come round for *im surr you can guess* and when he got here he told me that he wondered why I hadn’t been messaging him after reaching back out to him that first time (this was only a week or two after I had added him back again) and that it upset him because he wanted me to speak to him. He then proceeded to tell me that he likes me. Then he told me that he doesn’t want anything and that I shouldn’t fall in love with him. I told him I couldn’t do anything with him out of respect for the situation knowing that I would fall in love with him. 

He and I have done things over phone only. Even after all of this I have told him I can’t keep doing this because it hurts me and I care about you so much he asked me not to cut him off and that will talk about things the next day. He never ends up calling and we just go back to normal chatting like we usually do.

He messaged me a few weeks ago to tell me that he had made a dating app hoping I would be proud of him for it. I told him why would you do that and tell me knowing that I like you. 

The other day I finally flipped and said to him that I want to cut him off for good because I’m breaking my own heart but he doesn’t care about me and I can’t sit back and watch a move on because he made it apparent that he re-downloaded dating apps.

He then told me that there’s too much going on in his life and he only download of the dating apps to make himself feel better about himself. I said to him that I should be enough to make him feel good and that he makes me wonder why I’m not good enough. He then almost to a certain degree said that he likes me and he wants me but in other words said that he couldn’t have me. I said to him not to say these things because he’s a head fuck and he said do you not think it’s a head fuck for me too. I asked him what he meant by that and he said I don’t know there’s too much going on right now that he completely change the subject as he usually does and we went back to casual talking.

I find he messages me first all of the time. He always replies to pictures that I’ve put on of myself and when I put up a funny screenshot I had from a chat on a dating app the other day he popped straight up to laugh at it as well.

Yesterday he FaceTime me randomly just to have a chat.

One thing I haven’t mentioned is that he still lives with his ex well she is waiting to find somewhere to live. He found out yesterday she seeing someone and has been telling me all about it and how it has fucked him off because he wants her but because it’s not nice for him to see as they have a child together. I’m calling bullshit because even though he says he’s over her but clearly he isn’t. So now I feel even more fucked off I’m heartbroken by this guy. The situation may seem really strange but I completely assure you the only reason they live together this long it’s because she has no family to move in with and they have a child together. They also owned the house together so only recently has he bought her out.

Am I stupid for saying that he is absolutely fucking with my head and to a degree is leading me on but then has to stop and remind me that he doesn’t want anything from me it’s almost like he enjoys the attention I give him and doesn’t want to lose that but doesn’t want any attachment to me other than maybe sexual. He is breaking my heart every day I cannot stop thinking about him I think I’m falling in love with him and I do not know what to do.

Am I being stupid by thinking that maybe he does like me but doesn’t want a relationship because his ex was and still is very abusive so he’s holding onto me because I make him feel good? Because even after telling him again that I will not sit back and watch him move on with someone elsehe still wants to speak to me all of the time.