Well recently my boyfriend lost his job because he was on his phone too much & he’s always being a bully so they let him go. he wanted to jump on the first thing that he found in two days which could be a blessing or a curse…

Long story short he is working from 3:30 PM till basically 5 AM , the shift is over at two but because sometimes he won’t have a ride he sleeps in the lobby until the next bus starts running again. He said he can work first shift but how his grandmother will have to take him and to me, for a 31 year old man it just doesn’t sit right.

I understand he is dedicated but I just honestly feel if he has to go through turmoil the job isn’t for him, he also stole some steel toe shoes so he could start the job the next day and I feel he wasn’t noble about the job he just was thinking impulsively and just wants the first thing to start getting money just so he can get high off weed.

He used to get 500 a week at his last job and would take the 150 out for weed and shorted me on my rent just so he could get high but now tries to persuade me that it will be different this time because he gets more money… please !!!

The fact that we don’t spend enough time together already is one issue alone!

He doesn’t clean up at all & I said that would be cool if he paid all the bills but he was short the last few paychecks from his last job and literally spent almost $200 every paycheck to get high and he’ll find his self broke before his next paycheck every time…

His grandmother used to pick him up at 5:30 Am to take him to work and she stays 30 minutes away, I just feel it’s so inconsiderate when you’re a grown man and you shouldn’t have your grandmother even driving.

I want him to be independent and to take himself back-and-forth to work on the bus until he learns to drive, although I am not trying to judge him but I have three kids including his newborn and I most definitely can’t drive almost 20 minutes out with my baby and I don’t trust the highway after hours..

So today he attempted to leave and pack his bags

because I wouldn’t accept his shift and how he wanted to do things, and in conclusion I didn’t want him to leave and I guess threw the towel which I feel stupid about tellin him ok basically .

I’m with all my kids all day and wait for him to get off work in the morning then I have to get my daughter up to get on the bus at seven and that’s cool but if he gets home at five on other days like he did last night then it kind of messes with my sleep, he doesn’t drive…

I wish I would have got to know him more before I got into a relationship and I found myself keep telling him I don’t want to be with him but still trying to work it out..

i’m still having second thoughts that I don’t want him to call me bipolar, but I feel like we try to have common grounds but I’m still not happy. I don’t know if I am more of the problem or he is how do you ladies feel??