Mama looking for advice

Me and my family have been on a huge emotional journey for over a year. When my son was 13 I walked in on my father molesting him. I was going to wake him up to pee because he started out of nowhere wetting his bed. My mom wanted me to drop the charges and it came out my dad had sexually abused and raped my brother.

We've overcome that as a family and my son is in high school now. He would still wet the bed but it's gone down a lot to maybe a couple nights a week but if something triggers him he will start every night again. He was doing well and only wetting once a week but he was with his dad and his dad told me he wet the entire week he was with him and then wet the entire week here. So two weeks straight. I want to talk to him but sometimes someone told me in here that I honestly took to heart back when I was first talking about it was not to connect all my son's failures (or successes) with his sexual assault. And that sometimes things just happen and because he has a failure doesn't mean I have to automatically connect it to what happened so I make it my goal not to do that. I just want to ask him if something is going on or if he got triggered. But I again also don't want it to seem like I'm connecting. His dad said he's gonna start putting diapers in our son's drawers for him. I'm not planning on putting him back in diapers again quite yet without just trying to see what's causing it and if it's gonna be like this for a while.

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I remember your original post, I can’t remember if he started therapy I thought he did. I’m not to sure how hippa works with therapist if y’all can discuss what’s going on with him. But I mean as a parent is very normal to talk to your child and see if he’s doing okay, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re connecting it. You can just ask if he’s alright, how school is going and everything in general and you can tell him your concern and want to make sure everything is ok and let him know you’re there for him. You can’t just ignore it and not ask.

Mo

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What harm will the diapers do? If he prefers them where he can wake up and just toss the Depends away vs waking up in all soaked clothes and with wet sheets then it makes sense to keep him comfortable while you figure out the issue.