I'm a bit older at 35 but this is something that really bothers me. I'm the only single cousin out of seven girls in my family. Everyone else is either partnered up seriously or married. My mom came upstairs to show me a picture on IG of a family friend who recently got married.

It made me very sad because I feel that I've been left behind and am undesirable and broken after going through abusive relationships and situationships in the past. I asked my mom if I was undeserving of love, if there's something wrong with me or if I'm just not made for someone to love. She said that I need to change and listen to what she says.

I look a lot younger than I am and on a recent trip to the hospital to visit a relative, the front desk mistook me for a teenager because I wasn't dressed up. I was wearing sweats and a graphic sweater and had my hair in braids. It didn't bother me at all but my mom was really embarrassed and she keeps bringing up that incident.

Now after having that conversation about me getting married she says that I look 14 and make no effort to dress up or wear makeup or better myself to find a person. I wear makeup every day for work and I dress very modestly in long skirts and long sleeved tops. She also says that my glasses (that I picked out and love) are extremely unflattering on me and make me look younger. She also said I need to go to the places she's suggested in the past (driving range for golfing, etc) which I have no interest in. She thinks that my hobbies (historical reenactment, climbing, history) won't help me find love. Basically she thinks and insists that in order for me to have any hope of finding a life partner I need to essentially change everything I love about my personality to fit what she and my dad feel is best and most appropriate.

My dad came home and she brought this up to him and they started talking about me behind my back and essentially saying that the way I am is off putting to men and that unless I listen to them, there's no hope at all. I already see a therapist and this is something that comes up alot, but I really do wish that my parents could accept the person I am and love me for who I am presently. You would think this wouldn't hurt as much as it does but I spent a lot of time sobbing over this because it just feels like they're rejecting the person I love being and have worked so hard to become.

It also feels like they're reinforcing the idea that I truly am unlovable because they can't even love or accept me fully in appearance and manner, so why should anyone else?

This really bothered me and made me extremely sad and depressed and I wanted to get it off my chest. Am I wrong in my feelings?