I have a 3 month old who me & my husband room share with (her bassinet right next to our bed). I was getting her to bed for the night & when I laid her down she started crying again so I picked her up. My husband goes “this is ridiculous, you need to start distancing yourself from her & just let her cry it out”. I told him “no I’m not going to let her cry like that.” (She was screaming crying). I also told him he needs to educate himself on a baby & that made him mad. (He hardly ever helps with her & when he does he holds her no more than 5 minutes before passing her off to me or tells me if she keeps crying his gonna put her in her crib because she has to learn). I’m sorry but I don’t agree with that at all. She’s only THREE MONTHS old & was born early. Like I’m crying over his comment & it’s all because he wanted to get laid & I made him wait until I got our baby to calm down & go to sleep.

Let me also add I recently got invited out to dinner with my friends for girls night & I had to take my baby with because he didn’t feel like watching her. Or the fact I’ve been making dinner & she will start crying & he won’t pick her up, that I have to stop & pick her up. I know she is she’s just being fussy & when she is full blown upset, it’s a different cry & that’s the cry I pick her up during. So it makes me so mad he made the comments he did tonight when he barely helps with her!

EDIT: for the ones siding with my husband you clearly did not read the post. He does barely help! And when I do ask for help it’s an issue. Also you are NOT suppose to do the whole cry it out method at three months old. Babies do not know better and she was also born early so. And it’s not a rude comment to tell someone who clearly does not know anything about babies to go educate themselves. Tired of explaining myself to him.

And for all the ladies who see my point of view and/or offered suggestions thank you! I feel heard and validated. Thank you!

Also: it is NOT recommended to let a 3 month old to cry it out. You can start sleep training/crying it out at 6 months, not 3.