I did something nice and now she won’t talk to me

The short story is…

•friend’s BIL passed last year

•BIL’s birthday was sometime last month

•I texted friend day after the birthday date, apologizing for missing it and wanted them to know that I knew it was a tough day and they were on my mind the whole day even though I didn’t contact them.

•friend texts me back upset and telling me to never ever do that. We cope differently.

•I got embarrassed, apologized, and tried to move past my stupidity.

Present day:

My friend has since then become super distant with me. We were decently close and ever since that one day she’s barely contacted me. When I contact her to just be casual like nothing happened she responses but only if I initiate the texts. I was only trying to do something kind and now it feels like it’s lost me a friend. Which really sucks because she’s apart of a mom group I’m in and she’s known one of my siblings a long time. I’m afraid to even ask her if something wrong (which is blatantly apparent) because I don’t want to piss her off more. I don’t know what to do.