Literally watching my marriage crumble and my life change instantly

I need advice

My husband fell in this very deep depression but not only is he depressed he has gotten mean. Not violent, but just not pleasant and says things that aren’t nice. He looks at me like I’m disgusting and he hates me.

Fast forward… I’ve been going to get counseling more so on how to better our relationship. He hasn’t really done much. No interest in counseling and no interest in meds. He took them for a couple days and took himself off.

The other night he was being so nasty and mean to me I told him sit down… i explained to him I can’t do it anymore. I am done and I want a divorce. A part of me was really hoping this would kind of wake him up to go get the help he needs knowing he now will lose his wife and his home. So right after telling him this I got the I love you I am sorry I am an asshole… all the emotions trying to hug me and all. I didn’t cave I kept my cool and didn’t speak much.

He decided he needed to get away for the weekend so went up to his friends house a couple hours away which they’re a family he just went to hang with them. Interestingly enough the beat of the drum for him completely shifted. Now that he’s with his friend he’s cool guy and sent me this message…I don’t know if he is trying reverse psychology or if he actually just doesn’t give a fuck.

Anyone have any words of wisdom?