brother-in-law is a creep *** UPDATE 11/06

I don't want to be too long...

I think it's happening again and we may need to install hidden cameras till we move out..

My family and I share a home with my husbands brother. Years ago my husbands brother would do weird to me or with my belongings.. he would take secret pictures of me, look under the bathroom door while I showered or changed, smell my dirty clothes, buy me things that he remembers me liking(small things like food or drinks), he once gave me a lot of money for my bday, more than my husband, because we weren't working that much during that season(it wasn't ok w. me or my husband)... Things like that and a some other things I don't want to mention...

I found out because I not only felt that something like that was happening to me, I would also catch little things that he did.. some of the things happened when I was pregnant as well..

I always told my husband about anything that I felt off and was uncomfortable with. He would always tell his brother too and ofc he denied... Well I had enough one day and I set up a trap, he was caught.. they had a huge argument and the only reason he didn't get the life beat out of him was because my husband had just finished having another surgery!!

He later apologized after a very long discussion and I've tried to make peace for my husband.. it's been about 2 years..

Well, financially things are starting to look up and we're discussing moving to our own place now and I'm grateful... Except I'm getting weird feelings and nightmares now.. and well, my son had told me about something he witnessed his uncle doing and it made me.. freeze and not know what to say... I hugged him real tight and I told him things will get better soon.. he also says he doesn't like his uncle... we don't have money to up and leave yet as my husband only recently started his new job and while it's the best job yet and we're starting to come up.. I'm still feeling lost because of this issue again..... If I say something idk what will happen to us and our home.. I feel like going to stay with my husbands mom but his brother always goes there so I know I can't... I just want my family to be safe and I don't like that my children are around such things... I feel like I'm failing right now as a mom after hearing what I heard....

***** UPDATE:

I told my husband what was going on the day after Halloween. I didn't want to ruin the night we were planning with the kids.

When I told him he immediately went to look for hidden cameras(pen cam, candle cam, outlet cams, etc.) and now we're waiting for em..

WELL, yesterday... We were making love and when we finished, my husband went to go clean up and he was standing by the door, quietly listening (side note: the part where the door hinges are can be seen right through pretty decent from inside to out. We also have the AC control right by our room door)

As my husband is standing there .. (dark in our room btw) I know he saw his brother doing something. He tells me he seen his brother peeking his head into the hallway(again, right by our door and there's nothing on our side of the house for him anywhere. He has the master so there's no reason for him to be next to our room. He never even adjusts the AC. He never leaves his room like that unless its to leave to his mom's and eat or crap like that) so, he's peeking his head slowly into the hallway.. does it twice... Fiddles with the AC really quick... Then runs quietly back to his room... My husband gets his clothes on bolts it straight to the room, confronts him..

This weirdo is straight denying everything like we knew he would!! Mind you this is the first time my husband has actually seen with his own eyes that his brother is being a Pervy efftard, so you can imagine how he must've felt.

Well I hear them going back and forth and I'm listening right by the door because IDC he's violated my privacy already! My husband comes out maybe 10 minutes later still rightfully fuming and trying to stay calm.. and of course his brother stays in his room and doesn't come out and when he did it was to leave to his mommies. My husband called his mom and told her everything.

Now we're planning on asking his stepdad for help and explaining why and how we desperately are needing to move out.. if his stepdad can't help the i'm asking my mom.. I didn't want to involve her into anything because I don't want more problems.. so I'm genuinely hoping and praying that his stepdad can help us because honestly, his stepdad stays helping that freak all the time !!! And if he only knew what kind of a person he really was, I would hope he would react like me and my husband which would be pure disgust and anger ! And our kids are not allowed to be in his room anymore hanging out or nothing like that!! My husband told him stay out of our way and don't talk to our kids, don't buy them nothing. NOTHING.

My husband and I are already talking about me looking for another job which I'm more than willing to do..

I WISH WE COULD UP AND LEAVE NOW!!!

trying to stay patient...