Thank you community

I've been on this app for years and I've learned a lot from the comments. Today I had a fight with my husband but said the fewest words with the most explanation. When he told me he was leaving for a poker game tonight. When I had kids having meltdowns a baby on boob and making the food for the next two days while cleaning house. I didn't yell. I told him to take a deep long look at me with my unwashed hair covered in spit up. He responded "I've been helping you all day!" I didn't take the bait I simply told him "that's where you are wrong you are not helping me you are supposed to be my partner. It isn't all on me to manage all the kids and the home and the holidays when there is two of us." He stormed off he didn't know what to do. He has apologized. I'm just fed up every holiday is expected I do everything. I'm the last to go to sleep on feeding a newborn all night and first to wake up everyday. No one makes sure I'm fed showered or have had water. I'm the last to get my needs taken care of. I'm sick of it. I'm not even fighting anymore. He did agree with me but he still left to see his friends. I'm tired of the unfair treatment I get. I'm exhausted.