Wanting to exchange bf xmas gift

My bf bought me a satchel/ purse (Kate and spade)for Christmas. Amongst other 7 things I loved. The satchel was perfect other than it was too big and I prefer smaller purses because I don’t carry a lot of things so I wouldn’t know how to use it. My usual bags are very small. I asked my bf if we could exchange it for the same style and color just a different size and he said no it was past 1 month.

He got really upset with me because he feels like I don’t appreciate/ I am ungrateful for his gift but I tried to explain i would put it to more use if it was smaller but I would try to use it. I tried to tell him that it’s not an everyday bag it’s too big and he said I should try. For ex I should take it to Disneyland and I was like Nooooo this is not a Disneyland bag you take Fanny packs to Disneyland not this.& I explained I don’t go to school or wouldn’t be able to use it for work( wfh).

I kept telling him I didn’t bring this up to argue I just wanted to say my opinion and use the bag he got me more but he said I wasn’t even trying to use it. There was practically no solution because I said I didn’t want to stop from voicing my opinion but he said I should push my feelings aside and just not even tell him if I don’t love / like his gift.

He got very upset and packed his things to go home and I apologized ofc because he was crying and said he didn’t want to see me right now. I asked him what if we were actually living together would he leave/ runaway ? That calmed him down a little I think and he decided it would be better to stay.

In the end I iust gave up and said I would not bring up if I like his gift or not in the future but I’m realizing now I don’t like this outcome. I understand why he would feel hurt but to me it still doesn’t seem fair.

Not the first time it happened either. He got me candy I didn’t like for v day and I let him know for the future I actually prefer chocolate ( for that one I did feel bad I should have said it maybe months later or something ) and he bought me shoes I couldn’t even wear ( my feet hurt all the time :( )

Idk I’m at my wits end