Left my husband a voicemail that I’m done. In our relationship, I’m always the one keeping up with bills, appointments, errands, grocery list, taxes, etc. And last week, this week and next week my husband is off of work. Now there’s a semi hide list of stuff he needs to get done before he goes back and I’m exhausted. I literally remind him the day of while I’mat work to do it and when I get home he’s either barely starting or hasn’t even done it yet. Bro. I’m at work for 9 hours?! Wtf are you doing??

Well today I got fed up. He was supposed to call his job, the hospital, and his union department. Did he do any? He was barely calling his union when I got home and it was a simple fix (took 5 minutes) and then he gets off the phone.

Have you called the hospital? Nope. Well now they’re closed.

Did you call your union department? Nope. Well now they’re closed too.

Did you cook? Nope. Well now it’s late and meat is defrosted so too late.

Did you clean up the room? Nope, will take down plates and cups later.

I am NOT your mom. And I just couldn’t do it. I blew up! Told him I’m done being his mom and being on him time after time about the same things. He’s home all day so I don’t get what he’s actually doing. And it’s like he has excuse after stupid excuse and after stupid excuse and instead of taking accountability he says..”Well I have to be your dad and pick you up when you’re down cause you can’t. I’m your husband not your dad”. My response?

“Wow really? Get out. I’m done trying this with you.”

Instead of getting ready for his union meeting he took his car keys says hes going out for a drive and not going to use meeting. So I called him and left a voicemail.

Truthfully just saying I’m done doing this with him. If it’s such a problem then he can worry about his own stuff. If he’s late or forgets that’s on him. I’m not his mom and he needs to learn to do shit for himself. And that I never said anything wrong but the truth. And that what he said crossed the line and if he can’t get his shit together and learn to communicate then bye. 👋