Would you be upset?

So I get along with my husband’s parents pretty well. I love his dad, we have a lot in common and he’s been there for me ever since my dad died. His mom has driven me a little crazy in the past with thoughtless comments/actions, but she’s generally a sweet person.

I have explained to them both about my ongoing health issues. I’ve had an unknown autoimmune disorder for around 5 years now. It affects me eyesight, and my body in general. I was misdiagnosed at first, and I had been taking the wrong medications for 3 years and dealing with chronic severe inflammation in my eye. My doctors have changed my medication and now have me on Humira (a very strong chemotherapy type medication with tons of side effects) that has really helped me.

We have one child and have decided to hold off have another child until my doctors are able to pin down exactly what is the root cause of all these issues in my body. I also am unsure about if Humira could possibly negatively affect an unborn baby as well. So we are trying to play it safe.

Recently I had to switch my insurance. For some reason they were giving me grief and not letting me get my medication on time. I was a whole week late, and I was starting to get really worried. I shared with my in-laws that I couldn’t get my important medication and this I was scared. The first thing my mother in law says is, “well now you can get pregnant!!!” I was SO shocked and furious. I didn’t even know how to respond. I just said, “I don’t think it’s a good idea to get pregnant while I’m going blind.”

This isn’t the first time she’s only cared about a grandchild. My father died very very unexpectedly while I was 7 months pregnant with my son. I am from HI and I was ready to travel there to help my family plan the funeral. She gave me so much grief and tried to convince me I would hurt the baby and I cannot go to my own father’s funeral. Tried to tell me some story about a boy that went to war and couldn’t go to his Dads funeral. She was so adamant. I got the ok from my OB to go. She still was upset and wouldn’t stop hounding me. My husband was 100% on my side and just ignored her. We went anyway.

I hate feeling like just a grandchild incubator to her. She acts like she really loves me but then does stuff like this. I have been nothing but kind and loving towards her.