Please help

Hi everyone. I am in desperate need of some advice. I am losing myself more and more each day. I had my first baby a few weeks ago, I love her with my life. I’ve had postpartum anxiety since day 1. Constantly worried about her and not trusting anyone around her. Due to the lack of support I feel like I’m getting from my husband, I am realizing that I am developing postpartum depression. I’m scared for myself and I just need advice. My husband since the day my daughter’s been born has been making things a competition between his family and mine. It is exhausting. His family was so good to me during my pregnancy. But now all they seem to care about is my baby and I feel tossed aside. I told my husband at the hospital I did not want them coming in to pass her around. I was in bed crying in pain from the amount of pain I was in, and my husband brings his whole family into the room and they just immediately started picking up my daughter and passing her around as I was in bed crying and just wanting them all to leave bc I was in so much pain and just wanted to be alone with my daughter. They even stood around as the nurse came to press on my stomach and I was exposed. It was humiliating. Then, when they come to visit at my home, the first thing they do is snatch my baby from me without even asking and say hi to me then they walk away with her and stand across the room from me walking around with her and passing her around taking photos with her and I’m just like nonexistent to them it seems. I told them no kissing, and his sister kissed her foot in front of me and when my husband said something to her she lied saying she sniffed it but I know what I saw. Then another time she disagreed with a boundary I had set and she got upset and left. Days go by still haven’t heard from her about the way she left. I’m exhausted and I have tried so many times to tell my husband how I feel and how I don’t like the way they just take my baby from me and walk around and barely include me in any of the conversation and use her as a photo prop. She is not a toy she is my baby. I get instant anxiety and sad when I know they are going to come over. My husband says I am overreacting and that his family does include me but they don’t and he doesn’t see it and I’m tired of begging to be seen. And anytime I have my mom come over he asks why his family can’t visit more. But when my mom comes, she comes for me. She comes to help me with house chores and check in on me and yes she will hold my baby but not very long and she always makes sure I’m comfortable first. It’s different and my husband doesn’t get that. I don’t feel comfortable with my baby being picked up and passed around yet. It makes me feel sick to my stomach. A friend of mine just had her baby recently also and asked if I wanted to go over and see her and we can talk and take care of our babies together and I got excited. For the first time in weeks I felt excited for something. When I asked my husband about me going he said he was not comfortable with me doing that with the baby and turned it into a competition with his family yet again. He got upset that I wanted to do that when we haven’t taken her to his family’s house yet. But it’s bc of how his family’s been to me since I’ve had her. They never check in on how I’m doing, they don’t even message me. Only my husband asking when they can see the baby. And I suggested if we go I could baby wear her so she’s with me and that way she wouldn’t be getting passed around and my husband said we just won’t go then bc his family would be upset if they couldn’t all have turns with her. My husband doesn’t get it he thinks I’m wrong and all he says is that his family does care but actions speak louder. I made a post on my social account to talk about postpartum anxiety and what I’m struggling with postpartum and his family got offended by it. By what IM going through? Like come on🙁 I feel like I’ve lost myself, my identity everything I just feel so broken and alone and I love my baby I just want to protect her and give her the world. My husband keeps saying he is supporting me but mentally he is dragging me down bc he doesn’t see or understand what I’m trying to say or what I’m going through. Please help me, I just need advice anything I can say to him to try and get him to understand what I’m going through maybe I’m just not saying it correctly for it to make sense to him idk. Any advice greatly appreciated and thank you for those of you that read this I know it’s long.