Low sex drive, help

My sex drive is incredibly low (21) and my boyfriend's (22) is incredibly high, this leads to many arguments. We've been dating and practically living together for 2 years and I know deep down he's the one I want to spend my life with, I'm not sure what to do and am looking for some advice as to of what to do?

I am my boyfriends first serious girlfriend and first sexual partner but l've had past relationships with terrible sexual experiences including abuse, although it has nothing to do with him, and it's not his fault, I feel as though it might be part of the reason why sex always feels like a chore or it just feels uncomfortable and well it doesn't come easily to me. We have sex 1-2 times a week is that normal? and he still feels like it's never, this causes at least one , quite, large argument a month. He also says that it's always too vanilla for him and that I never make the first move how do I spice it up without becoming extremely uncomfortable?) but for me I need emotional and sensual connection during sex and struggle to ever have a sex drive to make the first move.

I find my partner extremely attractive and handsome and i love him very much, so it's not that I'm not attracted to him or don't have an emotional connection to him, I'm not sure if it's something that I should seek medical help for...

I just I don't know what to do to fix it...