No effort.

Been married 10 years together 14. We have children together and I'm spending my anniversary in bed crying. Every year and even after multiple conversations I've explained to my H that I'd like him to make effort. I wake up to nothing on our anniversary. Not even a card. He barely bothers for any holiday I'd say only at Christmas he will do something but usually I'm the one making all the effort. We haven't had a date night in 4 years because I was always arranging something for us and I now won't. Not because I don't want to but because I've asked him to make the effort and make the plans and he just doesn't. Uses the excuse of 'its weird me asking so and so to babysit' or 'why can't you do it?' I know I shouldn't ever get my hopes up anymore but this is the last time I make any effort now. I refuse to spend money on him or make effort for him when I receive not even the bare minimum. I shouldn't be crying on my wedding anniversary but I am. I'm considering leaving for a few days due to this because even after multiple conversations its still not even bare minimum and I don't mean flashy stuff just a card and flowers would of made my day.