Anyone else’s husband like to poke at them

My husband likes to try and get a rise out of me. I’m not sure if he finds it funny, doesn’t know he’s doing it or just trying to be a butt hole. I’m pretty sure he’s trying to be a butt hole because I’ve heard him say to our priest at pre marriage counseling that he pokes at me sometimes for fun. I know that was a red flag. I’m not amused one bit. It often leads to arguments (short lived ones), me going to our room for the evening, skipping hanging out at night as I don’t want to be around someone who finds joy in saying things that will tick me off. I’m a pretty easy going person. Heck I work with the public for a living so I know how to take a verbal hit and walk away.

Today I woke up, cleaned up, made coffee, went to church, gave him one gift, took him to lunch and watched our show. He then says I’m going to call your dad for Father’s Day. *I have two dads, a birth dad and adopted dad* my adopted dad is my dad. He loves me and raised me. My birth dad likes to speak reckless to me when drunk, yell and say insulting things to me, so right now we aren’t talking. I asked my husband why? He didn’t call me for my first Mother’s Day, he didn’t call you for Father’s Day, last time we spoke he was yelling at me and I had to hang up and you two aren’t that close anyways but yes friendly. He argued with me about it. So since it was late afternoon I took the baby to my room. Fed her and played with her. I didn’t cook dinner, I didn’t finish giving him his gifts. (He also cracked a joke earlier today about ditching us when he got home) so I guess he got what he asked for. I keep telling him not to involve himself in what I have going on with my birth dad, he let me get out in foster care at 3 years old. I have a father figure. Call him if you want to call someone. Why ruin the day like that? I bet he’ll turn it around on me. I heard him mumble “on Father’s Day” I told him days ago I wasn’t calling my birth dad on Father’s Day. Just another thing to try and tick me off. I always say, just be cool. We can be cool, don’t poke me. He said I have anger issues because I get mad when he does.