My fiancé Ex is trying to get him back. After our son was just born.

This is a long story I’m about to tell. Im adding in all the details I know so people can have the full picture. Polite criticism is always accepted! I’m starting to question if his family likes me and if I am going to have to deal with this ex until she gets the message or? This starts back at the end of 22’ beginning of 23’ and goes to now end of 24’.

So I ( 25F ) met my fiancé ( 23M ) back in May of 23’ at work. He had recently gotten out of a 6.5-7 year long relationship back in September of 22’. We will call his ex fiancée D ( 24F ). They dated throughout high school and I can tell that at one point he really loved her (which is fine I knew we were gonna have previous partners). I couldn’t tell if he was over what had happened between them or not. (He did woodland fire fighting and was gone during fire season; D cheated on him with a couple of his “friends” during that time). However, after they broke up D moved on and started dating someone I grew up with we will call her S ( 30F ), so I wasn’t worried about anything. We end up officially dating at the end of May. Our relationship goes great until the middle of July 23’. I guess she started messaging him again. Asking about how he’s doing and that she wanted to meet back up. I guess she asked multiple times before he told me she was messaging him. He told me that at first D wanted to check in with my fiancé. Then when that didn’t happen she wanted to meet up to see the dogs (they had 3 dogs together and she only took one when she left). Next, that it was she needed money for an “electric” bill that supposedly went to collection in her name from when they were together However all the bills were in my fiancé name; I saw the bill she was talking about. After that she wanted closure. Finally, in September/ October of 23’ D told him that the reason she really want to see him was to reconcile because she still loved him. Remind you she still is dating S. I was beyond upset, she had left almost a whole year before and she comes back when our relationship is getting serious. He told her to speak with her now partner and that it wasn’t appropriate to say those things to him because he has moved on. I asked him to block her on social media because to me that was a big red flag that she was willing to try and separate our relationship. He told me he blocked her and we moved on. Of course they have mutual friends so I’m sure she would still try and keep tabs.

Man I was wrong so during the rest of October we continue with our relationship by this point we are six months deep. D starts trying to add me on everything! FB, IG, and SC to name a few I didn’t add her back. She’s messaging me and I’m not responding because I feel awkward. I also felt like she was trying to set me up to run into her. I say this because a mutual friend of ours would offer going out for drinks and as soon as I mention that my fiancé and I planned on going out already and could meet up with our mutual friend ;she would make an excuse. Our mutual friend then would post pictures of D and her the same day we were supposed to go out. I shrugged it off. Now it gets wilder; come November 23’ and I found out that I was pregnant. We didn’t announce it to anyone but family and like three friends. When we told his family his dad made a comment “This is a mistake”, sipped some beer and left. At the time I took it as we rushed into things; I can respect that opinion. I mean it hurt but now I’m wondering if it’s because his dad likes his ex more? We didn’t announce it publicly until December. We made a big FB post and tag all our family in it! We got a lot of support! However, afterwards D gets on social media and makes a huge post about how 3 years ago my fiancé and her went through a miscarriage. I only saw this because a lot of mutual friends were commenting on it. I ended up giving her my condolences. (Miscarriages are horrible! I really care about this so much so that my business is helping couples have children of their own!). Although, I felt like this was a little push back to us announcing. Kind of like he was mine first, type of boast. That was the last I heard of her for a couple months because in February 24’ we moved out of state. I guess she was asking friends of ours what we were doing and they told her that we moved. This had her trying to reach out to family members of mine; she started adding them on social media. Remind you I did not know D before I got with my fiancé.

Besides that everything was amazing for a couple on months after that. Or at least I thought it was. I now know that I was just living in ignorance bliss. Our 1 year anniversary was in May 24’. We got engaged! I found out later that he didn’t even tell anyone that we were engaged or that he was going to propose to me until his family made a comment that they found out through my social media post. I felt like a AH cause I figure he would have told me he didn’t tell anyone afterwards when I said I was going to post it. During this time I was getting notifications that she was going on my TT page and looking at it. At first I didn’t know it was her until I looked at her page. Her name was unrelated to her and her profile picture was of nature from what I remember. I just ignored it and continued on with life. We attended a wedding and went back home to celebrate the baby shower with his family in June. Had our son in July. My mother-in-law came out to see him in August , it was a good time! I have been spending the time since my sons birth to adjust to being full time stay at home mom. Welp one day in October i notice he was getting a TON of calls and text. He usually gets calls for work. So I just assumed something happened in that department. This lasted for about 2-3 days in total. On day 2 I get on my social media and see all his family posting about how D was missing. She posted a goodbye of sort on her social media. Posting about how she wanted children and she was never going to have that. She was still dating S as far as I know of. S has a son from a previous relationship and since they are same sex they have to go through IVF to have children. I also had our son at this point too. Although at this point I didn’t think that she knew our son was born. She was very clear when she first messaged my fiancé that she only wanted a family with him and no one else. That she was struggling and the world was cold. Don’t get me wrong sharing the post isn’t what triggered me. I was really confused at this point because they all said they didn’t like her and didn’t associate with her really after they broke off the engagement. D did work where his parents did so they had a coworker relationship. However, something felt off. I chose to ignore it at this point.

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