Need help being a better at communication

Well I can't detail the arguments me and my husband have a lot of the time because it will turn into a novel so I will write a summary of it..

Mostly we argue and he starts raising his voice and saying things like 'You always do this' 'You never accept your fault' 'You never apologize' and so on. It is always the same dialogue no matter who is at fault. I have told him so many times that I shut down or freeze when he throw things around or shouts. I just cannot respond in situations like that. I simply start crying and freeze in one place and that seems to accelerate the situation to a point where he will start punching walls and breaking stuff... At that moment I completely lose it and start crying loudly asking him to leave me alone.

I don't know how to communicate without crying. I simply cannot talk to him anymore during arguments. He doesn't respond in a logical way or is ready to listen or understand my perspective. I don't know what to do.