Lying about cleaning

My husband’s mom visited for the weekend. On Friday I’d asked him to clean the bathrooms since I knew she’d be staying at our house. He had the day off, and I had to work till 5:30. I also asked him to clean the sheets and towels so they had fresh ones to use. He agreed to do all of this. In the middle of the day he decided to get out of the house. He’d told me over text, and I knew what that meant. He was task-avoiding. It’s happened before, and he always goes to the same place to get away (forest preserve because he likes the outdoors).

Before getting home I’d asked if he’d got it all done, and he said “yes”. I got home and I noticed the upstairs bathroom was the same as before. Everything was still dirty. I hadn’t even checked the downstairs bath when I confronted him. He’d told me “I thought you meant the downstairs bath. You never mentioned the upstairs.” I have texts proving that I’d asked him to clean both, so he’s twisting my words.

Later on, I even notice he didn’t clean the downstairs one either. Literal pee streaks still on the base of the toilet. He insisted that he’d cleaned it, which was a total lie. THEN, I asked why he never cleaned the sheets and towels after I’d realized we had no clean ones to replace our bed sheets. He told he he’d been waiting three days to do laundry because I had like five things of my own in the dryer. All of which he could’ve folded. Apparently this was why he couldn’t do his own laundry or our linens. So when his mom came around, the bathrooms were dirty and there were no clean sheets.

I was exhausted after a long week, and the fact that the house wasn’t clean for his family was anxiety inducing. But even then, I still didn’t have the time or energy by the end to fix it. I didn’t just feel let down, but I also felt incredibly angry because he lied and twisted the story on top of it. It’s been an issue for a long time, and I’ve given him opportunities to step up and improve after having serious conversations about how it’s made me feel. I can’t change this though, can I? What makes it worse is how he’ll be all nice and sweet. He’ll play none the wiser when I try to make him understand how this is a problem.

I’m starting to worry that this will be the rest of my life. And raising kids with him will only lock me in for good if we ever do start a family. I’ll never have the energy to truly improve myself and live in a peaceful environment if I’m always trying to coach him through basic tasks. I feel like I’m at the end of a road now…