My fiancé doesn’t want to get married

I have been with my fiancé for three years, and we have grown up together our whole lives. We have lived together for about 2 years, got engaged in October, and now planning a wedding for October of this year. I understand that most men don’t really care about the wedding planning and all of the flowers, dresses, decorations, etc. but over the weekend he told me he doesn’t see the point in getting married. We already live together, we love each other, we plan to be together forever anyway, so how will getting married change anything? What’s the point? He’s still going to love me and take care of me and be my partner in life regardless. He says he wants to be with me and he wants to get married because he knows it’s what I want, but he doesn’t understand how it will change anything. He says he doesn’t NOT want to get married, but he doesn’t see the point in it either. He would be perfectly fine being boyfriend and girlfriend forever. I explained to him that to me it’s like a lifelong commitment, and the two of us coming together and officially becoming a family and vowing to love each other, and work as a team forever.

Hearing this absolutely broke my heart. I love him more than anything in the world and him proposing to me was honestly one of the best days of my life. I was so excited to be his wife and start our life together, and I thought he felt the same way. I see where he is coming from. We are already together and we already plan to be together forever, so what is getting married going to change? I know that he loves me, and he told me he doesn’t want to cancel the wedding. He says he still wants to do that for me, but it breaks my heart because I feel like wedding planning is supposed to be for both people, not just one person making all the decisions. But anytime I ask him what he thinks about something, he just simply doesn’t care. He tells me to just do it however I want.

I just don’t know how to feel. I 100% percent understand what he means. We already love each other and nothing will change that. But It has honestly ruined the whole wedding experience for me because I feel like I’m making him do something he doesn’t want to do. And that he’s just doing it to make me happy. And I don’t want that. I want him to be happy about it too. I absolutely love him with all of my heart and I know he loves me too, but I am completely devastated. I want him to WANT me to be his wife.