Thoughts?

So idk if I should bring this up to my friend or leave it be or just kind of distance myself. I’ve been friends with my friend for 11 years now. We are practically sisters at this point. She has been with her husband for going on 4 years. In these last 3-4 years she has been overseas with her husband as he is military so him and I never really knew or know each other just what my friend has said about us, I guess.

Every interaction I have had has been him being a complete asshole to me for some reason. By interaction, it’s literally me chatting on the phone with my friend as she does not live close. Before he would just make dumb comments in the background sometimes and I would just overlook it. But like it’s progressively is getting worse. He always inserts himself into our convos to talk crap to me or about me. I FaceTimed her and he states and I quote “who Is this ugly bitch on the phone?” Mind you we don’t have that kind of friendship (him and I) to where that would be appropriate. He would keep trying to grab the phone from her and just stare at me and try to talk to me. I didn’t respond to him directly hoping he would get the point. I’m just lost on what to do as I love her and want us to be best friends but every time I hear him on the phone, I immediately regret calling her or picking up when she calls. I thought about bringing this up to her privately by messaging but she just had a baby and don’t want to cause added stress. It has been brought up in the past and she just laughs it off and says “don’t listen to him.”

Idk I just need to rant or opinions on what to do..

thank you.