Why do bitchy women get the best marriages?

I doo lashes so she's my client, but I'm also an acquaintance of her mom.

She's been married for 23 years but still gets treated like she's dating. She gets flowers, gifts, romantic dates lavish vacations. In public I've seen him opening her car door, walking her hand in hand and in events, they're always wrapped up, her head leaned up and he'll kiss her forehead and stuff. She gets tagged in beautiful sweet songs that speak very highly of her.

She has a very happy marriage but has such a bitchy attitude about men, I don't understand how women so harsh get treated so well.

I on the other hand have trouble even getting a second date. I met someone online and we drove halfway to meet. We had an incredible night but from there I was the one driving 6 hours each way to see him. When I asked when he would drive to me he said he doesn't like my town and there's nothing to do here.

I've asked her if they've ever had issues since they've been together for so long and she says no. When I asked how she gets weekly road trips and all these dates, gifts and flowers she said it's because she's made it clear from the beginning that she not only expects it, but DEMANDS it.

She's not a bitch to him, she actually talks really sweet and highly about him, it's just her essence that's mean.

Like when a friend asked how her husband is ok with not having guy's nights or doesn't go out with his friends, she says she also made it clear that she's not ok with that and if he were to do that she would divorce, or let him know to call her when he's almost home so she can get back after him because she's not gonna be like "those other women" who just sit at home alone waiting for him.

I think people should have freedom in their relationship but I guess I'm wrong and they prefer possessive and insecure women because my ex would not come home at nights even though I was pregnant and with a toddler, even though I was ok with him having friends.

She says the reason they have the means to do all they do is because they both work all week then spend their earnings on each other during the weekends, but I have a hard time believing that a man doesn't want his autonomy.

She's the type of woman who said she would cheat on him if he ever did cheat, then leave him because "there are so many men in the world that I can throw a shoe and instantly hit one of them because they're everywhere", like what type of sick mentality is that? Why not just leave? Why make it clear that if he ever hurt you you would be vindictive instead of taking the high road?

I wonder why genuinely nice women get treated so poorly while bitchy women are adored.

I've heard men talk about her and I honestly think it all boils down to her looks. She spends all her time in the gym and only cares about her appearance but apparently these men would absolutely tie down and change "for a woman like that" 🙄. Yeah right! They treat their loving partners horribly but would completely change for her?

So do men only want mean girls who only care about their appearance and are demanding and controlling?

I know in the back of my mind that they're very happy. She posts videos of them driving and him serenading her and kissing her hand and I know they seem genuinely in love even after all these years, because they're always together in their perfect little world.

I just don't know how to be so bold and so harshly say I want this from a man knowing full well that he won't be ok with it and just leave. He left even when I did everything not to rock the boat and make him happy. Just seems like saying this upfront will make me sound crazy and he'll end up leaving sooner than if I try to make it work.

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