Trigger warning-mentions of drug use, court system, parental rights, arrest.

So, the judicial system is really insane. Long story short, I gained full custody of my now 14 year old Daughter and ex-husband had his parental rights severed. I won’t go into complete detail because it’s a very long story that extends out 3 years.

Her dad was incarcerated for the entirety of the court proceedings and during this time a protective order was in place. My daughter and I had zero contact with him during this time, he did however, call me daily during the time of the protective order, so naturally and rightfully, I filed a police report documenting the violation. The judge told him he needed to stop and I believe the calls ceased after that. This was back in 2021. He got arrested for the violation two nights ago with an added charge; possession of a controlled substance PG2, less than 1 gram. At first I thought it was the charge back in 2020 when he was initially arrested, but the charges are different, as the first was possession of a controlled substance substance PG 1. It was more than 1 gram but less than 4, so it’s definitely a new charge.

I haven’t spoken with my ex in years. My daughter has phone conversions once every couple of weeks that are monitored by me, but there has been no visitation, nor has he made any attempts to see her aside from him asking 2 days after he was released from jail. I feel bad because apparently he moved up in his job and is engaged to be married and the empathetic part of me is sad for him, but damn, here I am thinking he’s moving on with his life, but he’s obviously still using and carrying around drugs and I wouldn’t have known that if he didn’t get arrested for something that was reported almost 4 years ago.

Editing to add that he put my daughter through hell at a very young age. He avoided CPS and law enforcement to the point a swat team had to get involved. They or had to follow them to a gas station and my baby peed all over herself when the swat team was able to get her from her Dads arms. She was in therapy for years after and now sees her therapist as needed. I had to file a police report for interference of child custody. He threatened to go on a shooting spree and kill her and me, as well as other family members and he was paranoid and extremely dangerous. He locked her in her bedroom and kept her out of school and basically alienated her from even members of his own family. He was using drugs and selling them, and so much more fucked up shit. His rights were rightfully severed by a court of law. He also filed an appeal and the higher court agreed with the lower courts decision.

Edit: There is no protective order in place and my Daughter wants to talk with him on the phone and all the calls are monitored by me. She doesn’t want to see him or be around him, but if he calls and she wants to talk, then I will allow it. Her therapists suggested it as did the court system for therapeutic reasoning as long as I am ok with it. He doesn’t say anything inappropriate, and the calls aren’t very in-depth. The arrest and drug charges literally happened two days ago, and one of the charges was for a violation of a protective order that was in place almost 4 years ago. I’m just wondering why they are all the sudden arresting him for something that was done years ago, while he was still incarcerated.