Boyfriends ex trying to ruin his life

There's a lot going on with my boyfriends ex wife. Things used to be okay between them but everything has gotten more and more hostile. She has said awful things about him and about me and has been an absolute lunatic.

So when me and my boyfriend got together him and ex were legally married but separated and YES they were actually separated. They had been together since 2012. He left her back in 2023. She was an alcoholic and my boyfriend is honest that he had issues with addiction in his teen and early adult years. He left her because she started drinking again and had went out and cheated on him 2 separate times.

He has tried to have a good co-parenting relationship with her and I watched him always try to reason with her and build a good co-parenting relationship. His mom abandoned him to foster care and he wants more than anything for his kids to have their mother in their life. She would be fine one minute and then start pushing boundaries. Asking him to get back together. Would randomly call him drunk in the middle of the night to apologize for cheating. She also tried to compare us getting together while he was still legally married to her but separated, to her going out and cheating on him twice.

She would also tell him how she feels he's an amazing person with so much love to give and thought he could do better than being with me.

Things got worse because he found out from his ex MIL that she stopped taking her bipolar medication so she started acting more unhinged. She would freak out on him every time he posted a picture of me online so he stopped sharing his life on Facebook to keep the peace with her. Her drinking got worse along with her not being on her meds and one day she snapped and gave their 5 year old a black eye. Up until that he had tried everything to avoid taking the kids away from her but he got full custody of their 9, 7 and 5 year old. The court gave her a list of things she has to do to get custody of her kids again including attending AA. She hasn't done any of those things.

Taking the kids away was my boyfriends last resort. He didn't want that but things go so bad. After she lost the kids things got worse. She would post horrible things about me and my boyfriend online. Mainly my boyfriend. She started showing up at our house to speak to him. He started blocking her because she would blow up his phone. Then she started saying threatening things. She started sending him her Instagram reel where she is saying how women love their kids and taking away a woman's kids can make them desperate enough to do dangerous things. She would send him hundred of messages. Leave him hundreds of voicemails. Some begging to get back together. Others telling him to kill himself. She told him that she hopes he never heals from that busenhe suffered in foster care. He has had to call the police multiple times to get her off our property. She got upset when she found out I moved in.

He eventually tried to get a restraining order but it kept getting denied. Until May. My boyfriend is a teacher. He teaches 5th grade. In May he was on a field trip and she found out where the field trip was and showed up. She started acting violent and teachers called the police. My boyfriend finally got granted the restraining order. She is not allowed to speak to him. She also hasn't even been given visitation with the kids and hasn't been allowed to see her kids since May because they were also at that field trip and she won't do what she needs to do to get custody back. She also found out I'm pregnant and that made her more mad. Because I'm living with her kids and she can't see them.

Now things have escalated worse and I'm scared. My boyfriend has been worried she is going to harm him. She has already technically broken the restraining order by trying to get other people to talk to him for her but he didn't report it because he doesn't want her going to jail. He just wants her mentally better so she can be a mom to the kids. She was also doing bizarre things where she would share his tiktoks because he makes tiktoks to help student teachers. Like tiktoks on how to teach division. How to teach about the civil rights movements. Best ways to lesson plan. She shares them to her tiktok to say some of the most disgusting vile things.

Everything got worse last week. My boyfriend has told me a lot about his past but some things he didn't tell me because he was ashamed of. I found out about this last week. So my boyfriend was in foster care and also on drugs which I knew. What he didn't tell me was in his last foster family the dad allowed him to stay until he was 19 but that was because from 16 to 19 when my boyfriend was heavily on drugs the foster father had coered him into doing sexual things and allowing him to record it. In 2015 when my boyfriend and his ex were dating he found out that his former foster father had posted many of those videos online to several different porn sites. His ex helped him gather evidence including those video to press charges and get them taken down. He had to go to federal court and his former foster father was charged and convicted with child s.a and distribution and possession of CP

Well my boyfriend doesn't know how but his ex has some of these videos. They had to gather them as evidence but they gave the evidence to the law enforcement almost 10 years ago. She had posted screenshots from these sex tapes to multiple groups in our city. Even weird groups that are just for selling things. She has posted them with a caption "Is this who you want teaching your children?" She also sent these to the state superintendent to try to get his teaching certification taken away. We had to involve the police because this is beyond breaking a restraining order. The police are investigating it because in some of those screenshots are from when he was underage. This is now CP and revenge porn. Which means she could go to prison which isn't what my boyfriend wanted.

He is terrified of potentially losing his job over this because several people we know have seen what was posted. I'm pregnant and scared this stress will cost me my baby. He's falling into depression and his old PTSD symptoms he worked through are coming back worse than ever. We don't know what to do anymore besides be there for the kids and let law enforcement handle this. I'm scared for my life because the restraining order is only protection for him not me and she has said so many threatening things and I dont have enough evidence for a restraining order because most of the threatening things she has done are towards my boyfriend .Now I'm pregnant with step kids who don't understand why they can't see their mom and my mentally falling apart and scared he won't have a job to support us because he's worried even though what happened in those videos was not consensual he's worried the school will care more about their image. I'm scared. We all are and don't know what else to do

Edit: Police are already involved. The sad thing is the things she has now done are felonies. CP is a felony so my step kids could completely lose their mother

Edit2: Police are involved. They are investigating everything. Especially since it involves CP. They are already collecting evidence. She isn't going to be arrested right away because they do have to make sure that the specific screenshots she posted where the ones where my boyfriend was underage. But there is a whole investigation.