Did I make the right choice?

I just made the decision to not move in with my bf of 10 years. 😢 2 years ago, I was convinced I wanted to live with him and I was so sure. I mentioned this to him many times and at the time, he wasn’t ready because of his work situation. (Long story)

We put a pause and continued to save up! I was in the process of finding a new job too and I asked him many times if I should consider looking somewhere near him. We are currently 1.5 hours away from eachother. One of us would have to relocate or perhaps find a job mid way. He never was supportive or suggested things. I felt lost.

Luckily I landed an amazing job which is actually farther from him.

3 months back, my bf was ready to move in. I am also in process of transitioning to another location. I asked him again if I should consider looking somewhere midway where both of our commute would be fair. He never helped me. All he said was he didn’t want to relocate to my area (I’m in Los Angeles County)

Anyways, besides all that, I started noticing a lot of behavioral aggression. He was fighting with everyone; his own father, me, his employee (actually 3 left his company because of him), and he admitted he is dangerous when he gets agressive so he rather distance himself when he gets like that.

I never understood why …he later on admitted (3 weeks ago) he can’t stop drinking alcohol. I don’t know to what extent he’s drinking or if this is confirmed alcoholism…point is I don’t feel confident moving in with him.

Turns out he got his first studio! He called me to show me his new place and actually he sounded a bit drunk (slurred speech). He even asked what my plans are if I want to consider moving in with him. He sounded mad and frustrated that we couldn’t do this together….

I admitted me that it would be a 2.5 hour commute to my job and I have to relocate …I also told him I don’t want to move in with him. Should I trust my gut? At this point, should I just end this?

This is not how I envisioned my life…seems like I’m just a roommate to him rather than his partner/gf. Also, his aggression scares me….i feel so confused