My husband said I should act more like a wife.

Today my husband (30 male) called me (30 female) upset about a pair of pants.

He’s a travelling musician and has to go on stage a lot to perform in front of large crowds. So he always has small tares in his jeans or clothes from the natural wear and tares of wearing them on tour.

Three weeks ago before he left on tour he was complaining about his favourite jeans having holes in the back and front pockets. He’s had these tares in these pants for two months but never did anything to fix them. Then he started to bring it up to me a lot and mentioned how his one band member’s wife always sews his clothes if they get ripped. He pause and look at me as if he’s waiting for me to say I’ll sew them. I’d say “yea that’s really nice of Lisa to sew his jeans for him.” “Yea well that’s what a good wife does.” He say. I paused and felt annoyed but stupidly said I’d fix his jeans. He handed them to me and i decided to take them to a professional sewing place.

Unfortunately the jeans i thought were fixed weren’t and he told me pins in the jeans poked him and the holes were still in the pockets. I felt bad and said I’d contact the store. He then texted me “This wouldn’t have happened if you sewed them yourself like a proper wife. You can’t cook, can’t sew… I pay the bills. You need to do more.”

I didn’t text him back after that comment. Ive ghosted him all day. I feel really hurt by it. I have a full time job where I take wedding photography. I also do all the house work and take care of our cat. I know I do a lot and he’s being ridiculous.

Am I overreacting by ? I need advice.