I needed a minute

My toddler has been off the roof not listening today. I understand this is the age. I was trying to fold some clothes and she got ahold of some tights of mine. I kept asking for them and she was playing tug of war with me. Just not listening AT ALL. My husband came in and just started pulling them from her and I told him she thinks it’s a game. I heard a rip and I knew I was going to be mad so I I just walked out of the room. I knew everything from the whole day and I hit a limit. He yelled after me “it’s really not that big of a deal”. I told him I just needed a minute. Which was just a couple of seconds. When I came back he kept telling me that it wasn’t that big of a deal and I told him that she hasn’t been listening all day. That I knew I need to step out so I could just restart. He shook his head at me and said “well okay… I’ll take her in the living room and you can take a few minutes to deal with what ever it is you need to deal with” and walked out.

Now I’m feeling like what I thought was a good choice to step away was a selfish thing for me to do. It’s been like this all day. She was sick last week and ever since the pedi gave her amoxicillin she has been off the wall hyper and insanely defiant. Which is not like her at all.