Am I in the wrong?

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I did post on here about my relationship with my bf who I’ve been with for 2 years. If you didn’t read it, I’ll say it again. I had my bf account and I noticed that he was liking girls pictures and they’re explicit photos where they showing their body. He was following them from TikTok on instagram but he also followed them on TikTok. He even commented on a girls picture, however he said he never did that. But once I saw the TikTok it pissed me off. I’ve always had an issue with that I even thought he stopped but I guess he never did. Last night, I completely lashed out and I said that you’re so weird numerous times and I was raising my voice. I told him to delete all the dirty pictures I sent him because I was so upset that he was looking at other girls. (I said that because what’s the need to look at other nasty pictures of these girls WHEN HE HAS ME RIGHT?? That’s kinda how I saw it. I always send him nasty and dirty pictures of me I even send him videos. Morally, I got jealous. But who wouldn’t right?? He told me that this relationship is coming to and end. He said he doesn’t like the way I’ve been talking to him which honestly I admit I was wrong but I was so angry that he did that that he was following these types of girls. Is it right just to end the relationship? Or wait and see if he fixes himself?
Don’t be mean I know I was wrong but tell me your opinion <3

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Boundaries are your hard stop and not a means to control the behaviour of others. Break up and find someone who is on the same page. You're not compatible with this guy.

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I'm not the one to usually shout 'leave him' at the first sight of trouble, but if he's willing to let your relationship come to an end over some pictures of naked women, when he could have simply just respect & protect your feelings, then yeah maybe you should let it come to an end.
Also, something tells me that he's bluffing and quilt tripping you so that he can continue this behaviour.

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I'm assuming you guys are young and trust me don't waste your time with someone like this. I would just break up

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Wait and see if he fixes himself.. wtf is that supposed to mean? I’m sure he could probably say the same thing about you. Others view the world and things differently, doesn’t mean they “need to fix themselves” bc of the viewpoint of others. Y’all’s aren’t compatible, plain and simple

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I saw the other post and my comment stands. Cut the loss and walk away. He'll only get better at lying, hiding, and manipulating you. The fact this upset you (as it should) and he completely spun it around and made you feel like YOU were wrong. Leave.

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end the relationship. he’s clearly not respecting ur boundaries and is not going to

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You guys need to end this relationship. You cannot force this guy to be what you want him to be. He has shown you what he is into at this time in his life. Find a man who aligns with your same beliefs. He may find a girl that doesn’t mind him looking at pictures online. Easy peasy

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From what I've read, you don't want him looking at other women, so you send him provocative pictures and videos on the hopes that he won't, but get mad that he does anyway. You need to sit down and have one last talk about this, calmly, but bring everything that concerns you up in an, "I statement." So instead of saying, "You liked and commented on this video again and you're doing it to hurt my feelings," try, "I feel like you don't respect me as your significant other when you look at these videos/images." This way it doesn't come off as an attack on him, and you can listen to his response. This is a big conversation, there will likely be feelings hurt during the course of it, especially if neither of you responds well. I feel like there needs to be some maturing, and I don't know that either party will get it from this relationship. I ultimately recommend having that conversation, and at the end giving him an ultimatum to stop with the videos and pictures, or that you will leave. And then follow through on that - he can change, but that's not your job or your role.

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Sounds like he already ended it. I personally think as long as you feel loved and valued who cares what they look at but that's my boundary. You are allowed to have them. If he doesn't want to exist within that it seems like trust and overall mental wellbeing would be an issue. So I guess ask yourself, is this really a hard no or is it a preference? If it's a preference can you live with it in your situation and or will it always have you spying or keeping an eye? 
You are the only one who can decide though. I wish you the best in whatever you do.

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I dont think you're in the wrong. If you have set boundaries, told him it bothers you, and he continues to do it, he doesnt respect you or your boundaries. Men are visual creatures, we all know this. But some act like they dont have any common sense. If you see it, fine. But dont go out of your way to like or comment on the photo/video when you know your girl is going to see it. Its just plain disrespectful in my eyes. Y'all are obviously not going to work out. Break it off sooner than later and save yourself anymore heartbreak and drama

Am I in the wrong?

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