Being called a narc and a bi*#h are equivalent?

So the farher of my twins and I got into an argument where he continuously called me a Bi*#h along with calling me a stupid black woman (he's black but his preference is usualy white), a retard and telling me I'm the worse woman and I ruineverything. I truly believe he is a narc but I just said it in that moment because he asked me what I thought was his issue. The next day he forced me to hug him, didnt apologize, he just said "you see what happens when name calling starts". He 100% believes being called a bi*#h and a narc are the same thing but I disagree. I know we need to end things, its just hard when we have toddler twins and a house. What do ya'll think?