What do you do when your husband says?

Question

“You don’t dress as you used to anymore OR
You always wear baggy shirts that looks so ugly.”
It hurts me deeply because he does not give me money to buy anything and I don’t drive so I cant go to store to fit new clothes. I buy them all online. I’m SAHM and I use his credit cards to buy food and necessity at home. Then I asked my mom today if I look fat. She said “you are gaining a little weight” and it makes me feel down so much. I take care of my 19months son and I do everything inside the house. Before, I wonder why other women do go under surgery and do waist training. Now I totally understand them.

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Well the way he said it was rude as fuck. However, I like to keep up with my appearance and work out daily because it makes me feel good about myself and I also want my husband to be attracted to me. If my husband said he likes when I wear a certain outfit or when I wear my hair a certain way, I’ll take it into consideration and probably wear it that way sometimes or pick that outfit on occasion. In terms of the weight stuff…. That’s on you. Do YOU feel good about yourself? If not, we are in full control of making changes to our diets and getting exercise in. It all comes down to our choices in life. You can make changes if you stay consistent and prioritize.

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First of all, my husband wouldn't.
But if he dared, I would tell him I have no clothes to wear that fits me well anymore and I also don't have the time because our kid is always hanging on me.
But if he would give me half an hour to an hour each morning with no kid, I might be able to actually take care of myself and my needs also.

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He’s giving you his opinion on how your style has changed, which could be done in a better way. I’d take it as constructive criticism and let him know you’re going shopping (maybe get an idea of budget). Even ask him to watch the baby while you go to the mall or stores. Maybe you have taxi or ride share service to make it possible, or even ask him to drop you off. 
If he wants to criticize then he needs to support your mommy make over. 
It’s especially hard for new moms because it takes time to feel like yourself again after you’ve given all of yourself to making and caring for a baby. Have a heart to heart with him on that and hopefully he can be supportive. Maybe he can also teach you to drive so you can have more independence when it comes to going anywhere you need. Plus when you have a child it’s even more important to have transportation in the case of medical emergencies or even just being able to go get what you need in a pinch. 
Also, don’t feel down. Take time to see if you are happy with the way you look and feel now. If the opinion from your mom and husband isn’t the opinion you have of yourself, let it go. If you agree, don’t dwell, just make a plan to change. 
Oh and SHEIN has cute lounge and casual clothes that is inexpensive and is shipped to you.

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My husband would never say that because 1) he's not a rude asshole & 2) i haven't given up on my appearance. I have 4 kids btw, a little effort goes a long way. My weight goes up & down all the time but i still make time for hair, makeup & dressing nice.

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The way he said it was rude!! But in other words he’s kind of saying you let yourself go. Why don’t you drive? Tell him to start giving you money so that you can shop for yourself. Don’t feel so down and out. Being a SAHM Is hard but that doesn’t mean you have to let yourself go. Also, make dates to do stuff on your own. But you say you don’t know how to drive right? That’s tough. Still, you can do things to make yourself feel good! Your husband just said it in a bad way.

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Self care is a must you have to make sure you feel good on the inside so you feel and want to look good on the outside start back taking doing small things if you e gotten away from it

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