Cant catch a break

I 25 year old female is tired of being unappreciated I get woken up everyday by my 5 year old. He does wake up his father too only for said father to go to the bathroom and smoke his blunt or listen to his music. Let's stay on the father shall we I knew him for 12 years we're dating only for a year on memorial Day he put hands on me all because he thought something was wrong with me and it wasn't I'm not the talking type as in I stay in my own space he trying to work that trust back but it's hard to. He open my mail yesterday takes my cash sometimes to buy his habits he a weed smoker and drinker gets mad at I can forgive and forget for certain people me when I buy built a bears or don't want to watch anything cause I'm so tired. He holds a grudge with my older sister I understand my older cousin but sister she wants to look past everything. I feel like he wants me really by myself he even have dating apps on his phone and when I confronted him about it he says it's for us he wants to see me do a girl I'm pansexual and I voice to him i don't want to i dont want to do anal either i tried playing video games with him but he kicks me out once his friends are online even if im in mid game i barely want him touching me i feel defeated i guess