Am i valid to feel this way? Or am I being unreasonable

(22F) has been with my (24M) bf almost 4 years. I never had an issues with him initiating intimate time our first two years, he would touch me often, tell me how good I looked and constantly asked me for sex. We broke up for a year and in that time he was talking to girl and following very promiscuous women on instagram. These women he followed looked just like his type. He has a very specific type, big boobs curvy women. Ever since we got back together things have been good. My only problem is he doesn’t initiate sex with me as often anymore, and when he does it’s only because we haven’t done it in so long. Other than that I’m always asking or initiating and half the time I get turned down.. I try to respect he might not be in the mood at all times and that’s okay but he later turns around and masturbates to porn watching his specific type. I’m very hurt because I don’t look that way. Hurts more he turns me down but then does it himself. I told him how I felt recently because I stopped initiating to see how long it took for him to even desire me. 10 days had gone by and nothing. 11 now. I expressed how I felt and he just didn’t understand. He flipped everything and said things like “so sex is everything for you in a relationship?” “When people get married and get older they stop having sex” these examples seemed pointless to me and had no correlation to what I was expressing. We are not old so why compare our sex life to that of a couple who’s older and married for years? If we hardly do it now that we’re in our prime years I can’t even imagine how it would be later in life. Then he went off on how I should be “grateful” he even gives in because he said “sex is only for marriage because the Bible says so and it’s wrong” but yet he watches porn and jacks off ? Lol as if that’s not a sin.