Nothing seems to work

For some reason, I don’t know how to stimulate my clit. I can feel when it is being aroused in other contexts, but I don’t know how to get it started on my own. I know friction is best for me as opposed to using my fingers, but I still don’t know how to lock in and maximize minimal feelings towards my clit. I’ve tried guided erotica, which turns me on more than watching porn, but even following the instructions I just don’t get the feeling on my own. I’m always horny/wet and can’t do anything about it on my own. I know girls love masturbating and I want to be one of those girls. Right now im soaking from ovulation and I can’t stop thinking of my long-distance partner and I want to masturbate to the thought of him so bad. I know they say to take ur time touching yourself, but sometimes I literally don’t think I have a clit! What do I do???