Am I being childish?

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I’m 7 months pregnant, haven’t spoken to my bd in 2 months. Last time we spoke he used very harsh words and told me he didn’t like me and that things I had done was “unforgivable”. Last thing I ever said to him was that I’d never to him again and that I’d stand on that. I also Told him I was moving and he’d never see his kid. He didn’t say anything back otp that day, so I’m thinking I maybe hurt his feelings. A lot has transpired between us, but hey, he hasn’t reached out to me either and both him & his mom have me blocked on everything. 
I plan to keep it this way, am I being childish, am I in the wrong here? 
Edit- I’ve reached out to his mom about a month 1/2 ago on texting app and ask that I get unblocked, but no response. I also reached out to his grandma 2 months ago but I guess they told her not to talk to me bc she didn’t respond🤷‍♀️

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Telling a man youre moving away and he’ll never see his child (unless for very very good reason)…. yes. Childish, toxic, abusive and using the child as a weapon before its even been born.

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It depends - what did he do? Why keep his child from him just because you both can’t handle being in a relationship together? Grow up & learn how to coparent

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Unless you fear yours or your child's safety, thats using your child as a pawn. If it's that unhealthy, it may be best to stop communication and then he can seek visitation after baby is born. But again if there isnt a safety concern,a judge isnt going to like you throwing parental alienation at him.

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I feel sorry for ur child.. they are the one to miss out.. all because u two can't be grown adults.. be the grown up and talk it through with him.. and if he ends up being a deadbeat dad.. the blame isn't on u.

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What are you expected to do? They both have you blocked.

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He clearly doesn’t want to be involved. So that is on him. Your harsh words should not dictate his desire to know his child. 
That said, yes you were absolutely childish as using a child as a weapon attaches so much baggage on a sweet baby who isn’t even born
At this point, maybe send a letter or something saying that you would be open to him getting to know his child if he proves to be a fit and healthy father. Regardless on where you all stand personally a baby does best when he has a relationship w both parents. Aside from that, there is no need to keep reaching out unless you decide to pursue child support, then I would just go through the court.

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Your edit doesn’t change anything. They’ve probably blocked you because you’re clearly quite dramatic. The fact you won’t say what he did tells me you’re most likely in the wrong. They probably don’t want anything to do with you & are waiting for the baby to be born to try to work things out to see him or her as there’s no point in trying to deal with you now

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Yes. It’s gross. Using a child as a weapon is never ok.

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Why would you keep his child from him? How would you feel if he did the same to you? You both need to be adults and coparent when the baby arrives.

Am I being childish?

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