How can I stop thinking this way?

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Every time I look in the mirror after having my baby girl 10/22/23 I hate the way I look. I gained 70lbs the pregnancy and after birth I only lost 20, I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t find me attractive anymore I sit and look at myself and cry, I don’t have motivation to brush my teeth or hair, I don’t have any time for myself anymore and he calls me lazy and disgusting and tells me I lost myself. I’m struggling bad, I tried showering with him and the whole time he told me to hurry and get out, I asked him to wash my back and he groaned so I took the wash cloth away. What do I do.

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Oh honey.... you are not even 3 weeks postpartum yet. This is called the 4th trimester and you need time, love and grace. Your partner sounds awful... you literally just birthed a human. I hope you have more support than just him....

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You’ve just had a baby pretty recently! Focus on sleeping and eating and being there for the baby. You will get the hang of things and learn to make time for yourself. I gained 50lbs during pregnancy and probably lost like 10 after giving birth but it took me 5 months to lose 20 more. I’m 7 month postpartum now and still have extra 20 pounds to go... I’m sorry your partner is not being very supportive. You’re not alone, there is a lot of pressure for us women to bounce back fast to pre-pregnancy weight but it’s not very realistic. Be kind to yourself and your body ❤️your baby needs you right now and the baby doesn’t care how much you weigh

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You are awesome because you carried and birthed your baby. He should see that everything else postpartum is worth it. I think he needs to be educated on postpartum issues. Sometimes ignorance is the cause to people’s behavior. I suggest getting a counselor. MH is part one f overall health. Hang in there, get a counselor, and have a professional talk to your boyfriend for everyone’s sake including your baby. I gained 60 lbs with my pregnancy. I’m currently in the hospital being induced.

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It’s only 3 weeks and you lost already almost one third of what you’d gained!! Great result, mommy!! Your current feelings are normal- your body and hormones are in the rapid change after postpartum☺️ for sure, it’s not laziness! Please, don’t be shy to ask for help and support from bf, family : having «me-moment» is crucial in this period!

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You aren’t even a month post partum. Give yourself patience & time. Your body just went through a traumatic change, it isn’t going to bounce back right after you give birth. You aren’t lazy & disgusting, you just had a whole human come out of you & are adapting to a whole new life, these things take time to regulate. Your boyfriend sounds like a big problem towards your self esteem challenges right now if he is saying these things to you shame on him, Your partner should never be saying things like this to you. I would be ending that real quick, that’s not healthy especially after you just had a baby. Realize your worth babe if he can’t treat you correctly there is someone out there who WILL.

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I’m so sorry your dealing with this and ur bf is horrible ! I just had a baby 10/25/23 so I can totally relate . This pregnancy I gained more and fluids too I had to stop looking at my weight bc it depressed me so much!!!!!right now what helps is only wearing my pregnancy clothes bc it’s comfortable and loose . Anything postpartum is right and makes me feel bad 
With my first pregnancy it took me about 9 months to lose the extra weight. I was breastfeeding so I didn’t do a drastic diet just tried to eat healthy. I did home workouts and some running even tho I don’t like running. It helps to bring the baby and not worry about a sitter and helps with weight loss
Trust me I understand it’s hard . But we need to give ourselves grace. We’re not even a month out and not healed !!! Right now focus on trying sleep and heal !!! And in time u can lose the weight but realistically give yourself 9months to a year. And reconsider this relationship with ur bf!!!! The last time u need is his bs

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Lose the boyfriend

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It took 40 weeks for you to grow the baby give yourself the same time to get back to yourself, theres no rush

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The fourth trimester is full of all different kinds of emotions. Cut yourself some slack, you JUST had a baby. Your partner sounds like a huge jerk and not supportive of you whatsoever. Maybe you need to cut him too…

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