Toxic parent or I’m overreacting?

I posted about my mom earlier and something just happened which had me thinking I’m in the wrong, but I’m not sure. A little about my mom, she always has to be the one who’s right and if she’s wrong she’ll still say she’s right or that she never said the thing that was wrong, she never apologizes to anyone, she thinks she knows everything and any chance she gets she compares me with other people or tells me I’m never going to be shit in life. We do have good days, but I wish those days were more often.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a few months (I posted about this earlier) and I try to talk to my parents about him, because I really want them to know more about him and how great he is to me. For one, they never ask me anything about him, and two, when I tell them they don’t care. My mom will turn everything into something negative. My whole life she’s been telling me that I should find a man who spoils me and spends money on me. My boyfriend bought me something really meaningful and inexpensive for what it was and she said something like “why is he spending so much money, he has a spending problem”….

I told my dad that my boyfriend wants to meet him, spend time with him, go for drinks and my mom goes “why do you always go for shit men?” I asked what she meant because I was so confused and she said “he’s an alcoholic”… because he wants to go out for drinks? once…?

Anyway, just keep in mind that I’m in my mid 20s. I was just out with my boyfriend and I always come home around 2/2:30, but we were having a really important conversation. I saw my mom texting me at 3 saying “isn’t it late?” I said “I’m sorry sorry sorryyyy we’re just talking about something really important” I said I’ll be leaving really soon. She texted me “So shit seriously 💩, every single thing you do is shit. I’ve never met a girl like you that’s out morning to night with someone who is useless” (she always takes her anger out on my friends and partners too, even in situations that have nothing to do with them), then when I got home she said “never met someone that had this much low respect for themself, it’s such a shame, such a shame.” I only see my boyfriend 3 days a week, the other 4 days I’m either home all day or I come home around 10/11pm.

I feel like I know she’s toxic, but sometimes I just go back and forth with myself thinking maybe I’m wrong. These are just a few recent examples, I just don’t know what to do honestly.