Why is it that people can down you for not spanking but if you say that you don’t like spanking than you are the bad guy?

Literally everyone I know (I live in a small town that doesn’t adapt to new things) spanks their kids. I don’t tell other people they shouldn’t spank their kids but when I say that I do t spank mine, they act like I can’t parent and tell me that they aren’t going to listen if I don’t. My oldest child’s father and I are divorced and remarried. I had my sons step mom laugh in my face when I told her that I don’t spank him. It’s crazy to me how normalized it is and that everyone thinks it’s okay to bask different parenting