Shitty Family members

My sister and I have cut our parents out, and have done extensive work to stop generational trauma with our kiddos.

My husband and I have been trying for 2.5 years to heave our second baby and on Christmas Day we finally found out we are pregnant! I haven’t told many people at all because of how early it is, but the one person I wanted to tell was my Grams. We used to have a really great relationship, but she’s been weird lately. She is my maternal grandmother, and is the queen at grudges and judgment.

I really contemplated whether or not to tell her, but I really wanted some sort of maternal support and encouragement. I got the absolute opposite. She was abrasive and rude. She said I had a lot on my hands right now (which I don’t) and it really just hurt me.

I’m not sure I want to continue with this relationship if I’m honest. It’s not the first time she’s burned me, and I feel like I should have learned from previous lessons, but I try to see the good. Or I’m just stupid.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk to about this, so this is the best way for me to get it out.

I’m so excited for this baby, and I’m trying to not be overly anxious and stressed. Does anyone have any advice?