WIBTAH?

I'll try to be short.

I've been living with a man, I'll call him my partner, we've recently seperated from a 9 years relationship and I'm looking for a place.

We haven't announced our seperation to anyone except close friends so we're celebrating holidays together also with our families.

Our finances have been seperate since july 2022 because he was taking advantage of me. He still doesn't fully understand that I'm just not his "extra paycheck" and that my money isn't his.

He is behind on some payments, a loan he took that I didn't agree with but he still thinks i'm equally responsible for but it's in his name (it is part of why we're seperated, he keeps on living above his means and I told him no more loans or I'm out, then he goes out and takes a 50.000€ loan, yet some of the money for the loan went to our child which is why he claims I am co-responsible for the loan). and he needs new tires on his car. I told him I can't chip in.

On January 1st we're getting together with my dad for Christmas and I prepared a gift for my father's Christmas.

It's just some money, about 120€ packed in a decorated personalized giftbox. He and his woman like to take trips and like to travel. They have been chipping in a lot for our child (they had him overnight at least 2 - 3 weeks everything combined) this year because I changed jobs and they honestly deserve a far greater gift.

I fear that my "partner" will be seriously pissed because I gift my dad money while he's stuck with bills I am not helping with.

Edit to add:

partner did get a gift already, it was 220€ of cleaning materials that he asked for and seriously if it isn't professional, it's not good enough and I feel he's being absolutely ungrateful about it.

Update:

@Narwalsarereal

No he needs to pay off his loan AND his tires need replacing, that's both costs that need to be done 'this month'