Is he really done ? Or is it another game?

I don’t get it. I’m so confused and upset and lost.

My ex and I were on and off for a year. He’d break it off and then come back. It was honestly toxic. I had jealousy and trust issues and he was abusive, controlling, anger issues, very overly insecure, raped me. He’s been trying to talk me out of moving out of an abusive family situation into my own place. Kept telling me how my male coworker makes him really insecure and asks me to block him. People on here told me that he seemed like the type to kidnap me. Everything seemed fine, he was even telling me how snaps of me and my kids or seeing me makes him remember why he likes me. But then I was late on plans that we had to have sex and everything changed. He started saying how if I really wanted to spend more time with him that I wouldn’t let anything except for my kids get in the way and how I can’t give him what he wants. Then snowballed into “think about if this is even worth it and we’ll talk tomorrow”. I just cut it and said it was done. He said he’s not over me and still loves me but doesn’t think we’re relationship ready. But then told me we should both be alone, which I feel like is him saying he wants me to stay alone so he can come back when he wants. He did something similar with an ex and I remember him telling me he was upset she moved on. I feel like he’s broken up with me similarly but came back still too. I know we need to be done and I think I’m ready. But people on here told me he’s a narcissist so I’m worried it’s another game and that if I don’t take him back, he’ll be crazy.