Do you have access to your partners phone?

Clarification: this question is not DO YOU GO THROUGH YOUR PARTNER’S PHONE?

If needed for whatever reason do you have access to use their phone with no hesitation.

Example: I went to a friends house and my friends boyfriend had his phone connected to the speakers. She went and changed the playlist. The phone was her boyfriends. She has his passcode and she just changed it. She said it’s normal in her relationship to do so and sees no issue because she doesn’t actively go through his pics or texts. He trusts her enough … her bf feels comfortable enough to let her when needed and she has never grabbed his phone when he’s sleeping or he’s not there. It’s always in a situation that if needed he or she can use it for whatever x reason but they don’t lurk through apps

It makes me think if I’m possibly being cheated? My bf and I don’t have each others passcodes. We never even talked about it. And it didn’t bother me until now makes me second doubt everything. He knows my passcode just in case I’m busy he can reply to a text. For example, if I’m cooking and my hands are greasy I’ll tell my bf “hey my mom texted me can you reply for me babe”

I just realized my bf never leaves his phone unattended. If he has to shower he takes it with him. It’s always in his pocket. One time I didn’t even know he had his phone on the bed and he came out of the bathroom naked saying he left his phone. I didn’t even know and even if I did I wouldn’t be looking or trying to go through it. Idk if I’m being paranoid now. And please don’t assume I’m wanting to go through it. Just feel weird he doesn’t feel comfortable enough to leave it there sometimes.

The other day we were going hiking. For some reason the gps was rerouting us and my bf kept saying he knows it’s wrong. The phone was in the cup holder and he was using it while driving. He seemed to be stepping on the lane and losing eyesight of the road. He put it back in the cup holder. I was going to grab his phone (didn’t grab it though) and said “I can it put it in babe since you’re driving” he quickly grabbed it and said “who said you can go in my phone?”

Like I understand privacy but I wasn’t going to go through his phone. I would never pretend I’m putting an adress and go through his texts or anything personal. I just offered help and he got so protective over the phone and was so rude about it.

I apologized and just thought I could help. Maybe it’s just me but if im driving and he wants to use my phone then i would be ok.

i understand ppl dont like when you touch their phone but he could have told me nicer.

matter of fact since that incident he says we have to use my phone for gps