Is it over for real this time? Or will he come back again?

*I’m in therapy learning how to leave him alone*

My relationship is/was really bizarre. I love him but I know he’s not healthy. He’s jealous, controlling of my clothes, insecure, kicks/throws things, gets mad and/or yells a lot, it’s very “his way or the highway” sometimes. He breaks up with me often and makes it sounds official. But then will randomly come crawling back (no more than a week, usually a few days, he usually keeps in touch too) and he acts like nothing happened. He broke up with me yesterday and said he decided that we’re too toxic. He told me that he thinks we need time to grow individually and that if it’s right in the future we can try again but not to wait on it. Part of me thinks it’s real, because it sounds right. But another part of me thinks it’s still just a game and he’ll come back? I remember he told me a while ago that he told me he broke up with his ex a similar way and then was upset when she moved on. Also just the way he’s acting about it. Like blaming me saying the reason is also bc he wants to see me “grow up”. Or how he told me that he’s still going to be jealous for a little while and told me not to post anything about other guys. I did and he told me he would readd me but “don’t make him regret it”. He doesn’t want me to delete him. And then left off with “we just need time”. I feel like if he comes back I’m not ready to leave for good. My friends all think that as long as I give him chances, he’ll come back.