Weaponized Guilt

I feel like my husband uses weaponized guilt trips on me and I have no empathy for it and see it as manipulative after all these years.

Examples

My husband ran into the store to pick up dinner tonight while I had the kids in the car. He only got meat he likes and salads he likes. When we got home our kids were having meltdowns from our busy day with family and taking photos and the heat. I ended up then making them dinner which defeated the purpose of stopping.

My husband's response to all of this is "I suck I'm a shitty dad." I'm exhausted and I don't have time to console his feelings while he's eating and I'm cooking.

Tonight at ten pm he decided he's going to church with his mom tomorrow. Leaving me with our three kids alone going to church on mother's day. He also is spending the day with his mom alone. He got me nothing and is doing nothing for me tomorrow. I just have no fight in me I'm making my own day with my kids.

My husband is now sulking in bed telling me how horrible he is how I deserve better. He actually is pouting that he didn't plan anything for me for tomorrow.

I'm over it I'm not going to tell him he's doing great or it's fine. It isn't. He for the most part is selfish and him realizing that without me saying anything I'm not going to tell him the behavior is fine. I don't fight with him anymore because then he blames me so now hus go to move is to weaponize guilt. I don't know what to do to be treated better I just know I am not consoling him for being selfish and for not ever putting the kids or me above himself. He is literally wallowing how he didn't do anything for me and he should have and how I should leave him find someone better. I got up and left the room.