porn ruined vanilla sex for me

Sorry if this is the wrong place to discuss this, but I’m going to make a confession.. I discovered porn at quite a young age, and have watched it since. (I’m 18 now). I now regret this massively as it’s led me to develop a taste for nuanced and extreme kinks which turn me on but i would never want to actually act out. I never thought this was going to be a problem, and I figured that once I met the right person, I wouldn’t have to rely on twisted fantasies to finish. I thought that romance and intimacy would be enough. Well, I met this guy (my first serious boyfriend) and we have recently talked about having sex. (I’m a virgin) We frequently talk about our fantasies, and for the most part we are into a lot of the same stuff aside from my slightly more extreme kinks.

The problem is, I’m always super turned on when we have our horny chats but I can never reach orgasm to the same thoughts when masturbating. I ALWAYS have to switch to my disturbing fantasies in order to finish, or I think of them first and switch to the more vanilla stuff as I finish.

I’m worried I’ll never get satisfaction purely from the love and intimacy aspect, and it will make sex with him a lot less enjoyable. Do you think the damage that porn has done to me is reversible? Maybe if I ditch those fantasies I can rewire my brain to finish to normal things? Please help!! Any advice is appreciated