Feeling worthless

My husband always ask for me to send him a "video" but I'm always too tired . I'm a sahm and barely have time for myself and to be quite honest his tiktok addiction is the biggest turn off to me. He ignores me when I talk and my kids. Why did he start a fmily with us and he doesn't want to be present. I'd like to think our relationship is great besides the disrespecting me part. He got me nothing for Mother's Day bc "I'm not his mother". I'm not materialistic but damn I feel like a single parent bc I literally do EVERYTHING except make money. He goes to work and thinks since he brings the paycheck that he doesn't need to help with anything at all around the house. He works nights so we are on different schedules. When he wants sex I'm not in the mood and when I want it he doesn't or isn't home. And honestly the way he ignores me for the phone or tv is such a turn off that how can I be into him? Well last night I decided to make him a quick sexy video like he always asks for. Well now he isn't talking to me bc he swears I sent it to someone else! Told me to fuck off and leave him alone! I'm heart broken! Where did i go wrong? It was hard enough to send that video bc the way he treats me makes me feel unworthy and ugly. I thought he would have been turned on and it would made us feel into each other again. He never lifts me up and speaks positove. He is the most negative person I have ever met. I can't even leave him bc I have no money bc he doesn't want me to work aka won't watch our kids. How do I go about feeling better about myself. All I did was something he asked me to do thinking it would bring us closer bc he feels distant lately. My heart hurts