Our son has adhd and autism- we’ve dealt with many many bad meltdowns where I had to carry him screaming out to the store

He still asks constantly for things when we go to the store but tolerates no now. Tho it’s constant and tiring still.

Our daughter has copied his behavior now and we dealt with meltdowns and consequences with her too. Tho a lot better now but still asks a lot because of brother

We let them pick one very small thing and that’s it. Our kids know now what they can’t ask for because it’s always no. For example, my son has asked for caffeinated drinks and that’s a no.

When we go somewhere new, that’s when it’s bad again. We went to a farm and they had this big gift shop and my friends kids didn’t even ask once for anything

Meanwhile, I have to majorly distract our son… avoid going in it and all. I try to get him to buy something else small outside of it to avoid the meltdown. He wouldn’t move past it and we go in the shop and a million meltdowns. We say we can also put it on their birthday wish lists. I take photos and all, but now he is like “you won’t find it when it’s my birthday!!” Cue the meltdown

My friends kids sat there quietly not even looking. I’m still so surprised by it.

How do you make it so your kids don’t all out focus on the toys and all at events and the store?

Our son has gotten so much better and he does have adhd and autism so that’s a big factor