I have three kids, two girls and a boy. My oldest daughter is turning 10 next month, son is 8 and youngest daughter is 3. We recently moved to a new town and we're in a decent neighborhood, everyone seems nice and there are kids for my kids to play with. The woman across the street is actually a year younger than me, but her three girls are older, one is already out of the house, in another state. The two at home are 16 & 17. The girl directly next door to me is 15. So the girls are all really sweet, and when everyone started coming outside when the weather got nice they were all very friendly with my kids. I thought it was great because high school girls can be tough and I knew my daughter would look up to them and think they were cool. So very slowly my daughter started hanging around them more and more, and of course, her brother follows her like a shadow. Everyone is always outside, they don't go anywhere together, but it's becoming an all the time thing and now the girls are texting my daughter (on mine or my husband's phone, she doesn't have her own). Ok, so we have an issue with this. We (husband and I) are on the same page, why do girls ranging in age from 15 to 17 want to hang out with a 9 year old girl (and her annoying little brother) everyday? BUT, it gets weirder. So the two sisters went away to see their older sister out of state for a week. Their Mom, who is super, super nice is home by herself all week. I said to my kids, the girls are gone all week, let Miss "Jessica" have some privacy. Leave her alone. Do they listen? No. Now they are going IN her house all day. She's feeding them, my daughter started saying guess who my other mother is? Which pissed me off big time. Now for context, they aren't the only kids there, it's a big group in the neighborhood from 3 to 11 and then the older girls. Also it's all duplexes, so the kids will say can we go to Robbie's, but then they are also technically going to Jessica's. It all started with a big bounce house water thing at Robbie's house, then Jessica brought out stuff she had that the girls don't use anymore and all of a sudden that front yard was the hangout spot for all the kids in the neighborhood. So, my thing is, I don't want my kids hanging out with some woman, that while she seems lovely, I basically just met within the past few months, all day. They can hang out in our house with their friends. Or bounce around to different kids houses in the group. It just seems odd to be there everyday. I don't want her thinking I am not taking care of my kids, that she needs to feed them or anything. But most importantly, if anything ever happened to my kids I would end up in jail because I would lose my mind on that person. So, I basically want everyone to say I'm not crazy, the world can be fucked up and to bad if my kids think I'm the worst for putting the breaks on this crap. But your honesty will be much more helpful. Thanks for your time, I know this is a long post. I just need other perspectives.🩷 Oh, and possible advice on how to say to the kids why they don't need to be hanging out with high school girls at their age, or acting like they have "another mother" that they want to be with all day. Because what we are saying is not getting through. They just don't get it.