Can you fall back in love?

Question

I’ve been with my husband 14 years, married for nearly 7. We have two young kids, he’s a great person and a great dad but I just don’t love him anymore. I feel like everything he does and says irritates me. We don’t have anything in common anymore. Anytime I try to talk to him about things it ends in an argument, I feel he lacks emotional intelligence and also the ability to communicate effectively. I don’t want to separate for our kids but I also don’t want to stay in a loveless marriage. At times I’m miserable, other times I feel I could stay and make do. The prospect of being a single parent and managing financially scares me too but all round I just don’t know what to do for the best. Please help me with your wisdom and experiences.

Answer

I think it’s possible if you both put in work. Try to start dating each other again. I’ve been in that boat. We worked through our rough patch, had a great few years again. Now it’s getting stagnant again haha. But that’s life. Maybe life is pushing you in a different direction. Not necessarily to leave him, but find something else you enjoy.

Answer

After 18 years of marriage and 26 being together i can say yes you can fall in and out of love with your spouse. But I've also come to understand that love isn't always hearts and flowers or romantic dinners and it's a constant giving game where you have to work at making each other happy. Happy because he did the dishes and you don't have to happy because you cooked his dinner tonight. I think its easy on both parties in a relationship to forget they have to work at being what the other needs when they need it. It's also hard to be honest when the other isn't making you happy. It's easy to point fingers and blame each other. That one thing almost destroyed my marriage. But we both came to a point where we stopped blaming the other and took responsibility for the things we were doing wrong in our relationship. It's hard to hear the person that is supposed to love you forever tell you they don't like or love you or what they see as your faults. But in the end the only way to make it is to talk about those things with each other

Answer

To me love is a choice we make. Of course when two people fall in love the emotions are all there, but after the newness wears off we have to make a choice to stay in love. I agree with previous poster, to start dating again. My husband and I try for weekly dates we've been married for 12 years, and it doesn't always happen that way, but it's a goal we try for..  Relationshis take effort! Have you ever read the book The Love Dare.? It has some good ideas on repairing a marriage.

Answer

It really helps to continue to make effort for each other in the relationship. This only works if you’re both on board. If you are both investing in the relationship, it can strengthen your bond and open you up to loving him again. It may help to see a marriage counselor to help open up communication. I highly suggest you read up on the Gottmans and their research. Ultimately you need to decide if you want to stay and work or if it’s time to call it quits.

Answer

Absolutely, what worked for me was working on myself , focusing in me, therapy for myself and once that inner work gets doing it somehow the energy bounces and reflect son your partner ans tuings start to work out. Depending on the sistuation once he sees that positive change if He is willinf to try he would definitely ch ag

Answer

Maybe you need a break away from everyone. Can you take like a week to just get away from everything and then plan a date for when you come back? See if that helps?

Answer

try going on date together and going out for dinner just because you been together so long dont neglect both of your time together

Answer

Therapy ?

Can you fall back in love?

Let’s Glow

Glow is here for you on your path to pregnancy

25+ million

4.8 stars

20+

Getting Pregnant

Pregnancy

1st Year (Baby & You)

Baby Products