Back in September my dad got out of prison on parole. He molested my child when he was 13 back in May of 2021. Was supposed to serve 8 years. He served 3. My son is 16 now and he was doing okay but is struggling again. I had walked in on my father molesting my kid. I was waking my son up to use the bathroom because he randomly started peeing in his sleep and I walked in to that. Over the years in therapy my son expressed that he felt I was smothering him and being overprotective so I've tried to lay off. He started back up his accidents again and first time I tried to talk to him about it he blew up on me. I have put him back in therapy but I'm trying to respect his wishes and back off. I did go out a mattress protector on his bed while he was at school. It's been 3 months now since my dad was released. We luckily have a restraining order. But in those 3 months he's maybe been dry 10x and even with the mattress protector his room smells. I've also been informed of panic attacks at school. When should I finally try to talk about this again?